There
are numerous occasions when your child's behavior touches your heart. However,
there are other instances when it probably makes you a little bit irrational.
When your child is a toddler or preschooler, he or she might not be able to
control their anger and instead naturally lash out, possibly hitting or biting
in response to their frustration.
While
incidental explosions are normal-especially during temper tantrums-there are
things you can do to influence your kid's way of behaving
1. Establish
the House Rules
One
of your important parenting responsibilities is to teach your children the
rules of the house. Because toddlers typically enjoy exploring and touching,
you shouldn't let them handle, conceal, or remove valuables. You might want to
think about creating a separate area of your home for your child to play with
books and toys. Reprimanding children right away when they break important
rules will help them understand exactly what they did wrong.
2. Dangers
are Over-Evaluated
Instead
of simply saying, "Stop it or else," it is always more effective to
teach children alternative behaviors and to positively reinforce desired
behaviors. Explain to them that the next time they feel enraged, they should
express themselves verbally.
3. Introducing
Helpful Distractions
While
teaching your child alternative responses, it's fine to occasionally distract
him or try something new. as long as you aren't "bribing" him with
sweet snacks to behave differently. For instance, there is nothing wrong with
changing his focus on purpose.
4. Keep
your Cool." they Currently Cannot
Keep
in mind that toddlers lack natural self-control. When they are enraged, they
require your instruction to teach them to express themselves verbally rather
than physically by biting, kicking, or kicking.
5. We
Do Not Harm One Another
When
your child gets into arguments with her friends at play, keep a close eye on
her. Keep your distance when there is a minor disagreement and let the kids
figure it out on their own. However, you must intervene when one child appears
to be in an uncontrollable rage and is attacking or biting the other, or when
children engage in a physical fight that continues despite instructions to
stop. Separate the children until they have calmed down by pulling them apart.
You might have to end the play session if the fight turns violent. Make it
clear that it doesn't matter who "started it." There is no
justification for attempting to harm one another.
6. Rather
Than Fighting
Help
your youngster to say "no" in a firm manner of speaking, to turn his
back, or to track down splits the difference as opposed to battling with his
body. Through model, you are training your kid to settle contrasts with words -
more successful and more acculturated - than with actual viciousness.
7. What
a Job
When
your child uses these strategies instead of hitting, kicking, or biting, praise
her for appropriate behavior and help her understand how "grown-up"
she is acting. When you notice your child being kind and gentle, you should
always praise and reinforce that behavior.
8. Timeouts
are Fine
A
time-out can be used with children as young as one year old, and there is
nothing wrong with it when your child is acting inappropriately. For more
details, check out How to Give a Timeout.
9. Take
Control of Your Temper
Keep
an eye on how you act around your child at all times. Controlling your own
temper is one of the best ways to teach him appropriate behavior. Your child is
likely to emulate you if you calmly and peacefully express your anger.
10. Keep
Going
If
you have to discipline your child, don't feel bad about it or apologize for it.
If your child notices that you have mixed feelings, he will believe he was
right all along and that you are the "bad" person. Even though it is
never easy to discipline your child, it is a necessary part of being a parent,
and there is no reason to feel bad about it. It is essential for your child to
recognize when he is in the wrong, take responsibility for his actions, and be
willing to accept the consequences.
When
To Contact Your Child's Doctor
Consult your pediatrician if your child
appears to be unusually aggressive for more than a few weeks and you are unable
to manage his behavior on your own. Other indicators include:-
i. Actual injury to himself or others
(teeth marks, wounds, head wounds)
ii. attacks on adults or you alone
iii. being ejected from play or sent home
by neighbors or the school
iv. Your own concern for his personal
safety
The frequency with which outbursts occur is
the most crucial warning sign. Children with conduct disorders may behave quite
charmingly for a few days, weeks, or even months at a time while going
unnoticed, but few are able to go a month without at least one incident.
When a number of effective methods for
rewarding good behavior and deterring bad behavior are discovered, they can be
used to develop a strategy that is effective both inside and outside the home.
Although the program's progress may be sluggish, it typically succeeds when
initiated when the disorder is still in its infancy.
Remember
Keep in mind that providing your child with a
stable, secure home life, loving, firm discipline, and full-time supervision
during the toddler and preschool years is the best way to prevent aggressive
behavior.
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